Nurturing Resilience

Research found that resilience is a practically and statistically predictive variable of emotional intelligence. This means that individuals with a high resilience often present with a high emotional intelligence and vice versa. Resilience and emotional intelligence both serve as a buffer against mental health challenges and mental illness.

Emotional Intelligence is conceptualized as: “…the ability to perceive accurately, appraise and express emotion; the ability to access and/or generate feelings when they facilitate thought; the ability to understand emotion and emotional knowledge; and the ability to regulate emotions to promote emotional and intellectual growth.”

Resilience is defined as an individual’s capability to engage with misfortune or change in a productive manner known as resilience.

Therefore it is thus of utmost importance to nurture resilience in ourselves, our children, our friends and those around us.

Many clients often arrive at their first counseling session with hopelessness in their voices, unsure of where to turn or what to do next. They feel they have exhausted their resources and reached their coping capacity. Often they feel isolated, disconnected and misunderstood by their world.

In our counselling relationship it is my priority to create and hold a safe space for clients to share, express and explore themselves in familiar and unfamiliar ways. In my practice and research I have found that we (as individuals) spend a lifetime developing strategies to cover up or hide from our early traumas or childhood hurts. By understanding how the body stores trauma, through reflection and introspection, it can restore a sense of balance and goodness, the body becomes a powerful vehicle for restoring resilience, while nurturing growth into selfhood and wholeness.  As soon as we begin to peel back the layers beneath this presentation of helplessness, we discover what is behind our hopelessness.

Those seeking counselling often feel overwhelmed, anxious, lonely, or may struggle with addiction, feelings of abandonment, or difficulty with commitment etc. Some psychological issue manifest somatically in migraines, gut discomfort, eczema, muscle pains, difficulty concentrating or learning, high blood pressure, autoimmune disorders or diabetes. Trauma can trigger these somatic symptoms and or genetic predispositions. Thus it is of utmost importance to enlarge ones capacity for resilience.  My approach seeks to address all levels of wounding of trauma that the client feels comfortable and ready to address.

I truly believe that where that where there is life, there is hope. The individual brain and psyche is constructed to “bounce back” and thrive through turbulent times. Together we look holistically at your life and work together in a transparent trust relationship to nurture resilience to prevent mental illness and psychological distress and heal the wounds and at their root cause.

“The courage to care, the time to learn and the commitment to act.”